[Help] I feel alone

[voidcat]

I'm writing this here under health because mental health is part of that.

I currently am crying as I write this. Over the past weeks I'm starting to realize just how alone and isolated from everyone I feel. I have a good support system but feel close to no one. My whole life I feel I been an outcast. I know however many people care about me. But right now I just can't get over the feeling I'll never find acceptance anywhere. That I'll always be alone.

I keep thinking I'm a horrible person but I know I am not. That I don't deserve friends. I don't deserve anything. I know this isn't true. I do a lot of good in the word. I feel like I'm being sucked into a void.

I know I'm being irrational. But I'm not sure how to convince my emotions of that. How to make my emotions and logics agree here.



I recently had a break up. It went terribly. I know that's likely affecting my emotions here. Yet even not considering this I still feel I'm drowning. I feel alone. I feel I've lost a lot of people in my life. I feel I have no choice but to distance myself from everyone to avoid more hurt

Logically these emotions are temporary I know. Logically I'll be able to find acceptance I'm sure. But these emotions keep cropping up


I'm considering doing a spell for clarity in emotions. Clarity in things. Clarity in how to be. But I know many people have felt heartbreak. And many people likely get how I'm feeling. So...I might as well ask for advice. Both on the spell and on how to handle emotions.

 

[Adelina]

Let me try to soothe you. I, too, feel alone a lot of the time. People's nature is quite inconstant. Today they are with you, tomorrow they are with someone else. People come and go, they get born and die, their lives are like drops in the ocean of eternity. Perhaps, you (and I too) must spend more efforts in learning and comtemplating something eternal, which doesn't pass like a dream or like an ever-changing mood of some spoiled heart-breaker....

Eventually everything will pass. And only what is eternal has any kind of meaning.

Most of the people, actually, feel themselves lonely. Which doesn't stop them from breaking others' hearts, go figure. Sometimes it feels like this world is full of fools, and heartless people. Which also makes it important to spend more time with Eternal...

Not sure if what I wrote helps. Because I often feel the same way and also shed a lot of tears due to incostancy of mankind...

Everything will be alright

 

[voidcat]

Just had therapy. Therapist said shower and get under my weighted blankets and play video games. She said I need rest and a nap. I been under too much stress the past few weeks. She told me the therapy equivalent of bed rest- relax today and tomorrow only do what I feel like in the moment no rush rush do things

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Let me try to soothe you. I, too, feel alone a lot of the time. People's nature is quite inconstant. Today they are with you, tomorrow they are with someone else. People come and go, they get born and die, their lives are like drops in the ocean of eternity. Perhaps, you (and I too) must spend more efforts in learning and comtemplating something eternal, which doesn't pass like a dream or like an ever-changing mood of some spoiled heart-breaker....

Eventually everything will pass. And only what is eternal has any kind of meaning.

Most of the people, actually, feel themselves lonely. Which doesn't stop them from breaking others' hearts, go figure. Sometimes it feels like this world is full of fools, and heartless people. Which also makes it important to spend more time with Eternal...

Not sure if what I wrote helps. Because I often feel the same way and also shed a lot of tears due to incostancy of mankind...

Everything will be alright

The guy is an good guy. He tried to do everything he could to ease me into the break up and did his best. I just didn't let go as I shouldve.

I agree everything will be alright

 

[IllusiveOwl]

This pain is good, loneliness and Isolation is a purifying fire. This pain can reforage you into a more coherently and authentic you, if you let it. You're forced to look at yourself now, the suffering is profound and forces you to contemplate on what suffering is, what alleviates it, and who you are.

Esoterically, we are all alone, there is just us, God was born crying alone in a vast infinite ocean, there is just you, the one, and no one. Knowing this makes this embodied state we're currently immersed in so wonderful & rich, because somehow, when there was no one, there are now many. This can be a piece of knowledge that can really help you relate with others.

Think about others, think about your qualities. You are flawed, deeply flawed, all young people are, the only ones who aren't are the braindead ones that give their whole beings to smoothly going with the flow, and they are worse off for it.

Take this time to repair yourself, not to feel validated, comforted, or perfect as you are, but seriously look at your flaws and resolve to work on them. Building yourself up, forgiving yourself for your ignorance, and letting go of everything, this is the way to freedom and happiness.

This is a fantastic time to admit that you aren't perfect, and to write a list of your flaws, then how you are going to fix them. Proactivity will erase your static ennui, like how muck never collects in an active body of water.

 

[voidcat]

Proactivity will erase your static ennui, like how muck never collects in an active body of water.

I have been waay too productive lately. I mean I been nonstop moving doing things to better my life for months now. I have made it better in a lot of ways. And have done things that made it worse. That's why my therapist told me to rest today and tomorrow. My emotions and mind haven't had time to rest in a long time. I haven't felt ennuni that implies I haven't done anything or I am bored. In reality my life lately has been one rollercoaster after another lately and it's only going to get worse the next year or so. The fact I had a break up is kind of the least of my problems and reason for feeling alone.

Im not perfect. I know I am flawed. But right now I feel numb. I feel like I need to rest my emotions. Take a break like my therapist told me today. Rest.

 

[IllusiveOwl]

Im not perfect. I know I am flawed. But right now I feel numb. I feel like I need to rest my emotions. Take a break like my therapist told me today. Rest

This sounds like an excellent time to pick up Zazen meditation then. I recommend Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind.

 

[Romolo]

Your future self, the one in 10 years from now, is looking at you with love and compassion, drinking tea on some balcony in Summer, under the roses. They are rooting for you.

 

[Omee]

I'm considering doing a spell for clarity in emotions. Clarity in things. Clarity in how to be. But I know many people have felt heartbreak. And many people likely get how I'm feeling. So...I might as well ask for advice. Both on the spell and on how to handle things.

It's okay, no need to be so logical about it. It's better to accept the situation as it is better to let nature take it's course. It's not always the mystical or esoteric approach but I am here to lend an ear if you ever want to talk. I am not the best in giving relationship advice except that I can say the following.

I pray that you get through this and that you find the light around you. May God shine light on your guardian angel, your guides, and your ancestors that you're able to have Peace, Love, and Faith given to you <3

 

[Xenophon]

Whenever I feel alone, I take a look at social media and see all the people I could be letting waste my time and energy instead. Really, two days on Tik Tok and I deleted it with fear and trembling and sickness unto death. It might be wise to turn yourself into the person you most like to spend time with.

 

[djcullgirl]

yeah ive been struggling with the same. I fear its just a reality of this path we all have chosen, the one of initiation. the further i walk the further i shed my skin and embrace authenticity, the more shunned scapegoated and isolated i feel. the more i face real world attacks and persecution... which seems to push me towards awakening, which further isolates me..... its brutal. and same as you, i know in my heart i am a good person. i really do and always have come from a place of love and compassion and open mindedness, concerned about the welfare of others, open to criticism. I'm certainly not perfect and i can definitely see how many people might find me difficult to be around, but i always thought i had been lucky in carving out some kind of network of likeminded individuals... but in this latest period of intensified spiritual growth, its like every single one of my relationships just went in to fucking flames... as if me finally growing out of that state of conciousness id been stuck in all that time had suddenly caused every single person in my life to vanish, or worse.... my heart is so broken, its insane. i feel such tremendous grief for this generation coming up in these days.....

I fear the isolation society as a whole won't return until we begin returning to a way of organizing society more in line with our biological evolution.

 

[Imperium]

I recently had a break up. It went terribly.

Same here, ugly breakup. End of a decade long relationship.

The ridiculous thing is that the last straw was my dad's chronic illness which has been getting worse since 2019. All the stress got to me in the end.

Rest is good advice, sometimes it's best to slow down. I know with this caregiver burnout a new relationship would fail so i just try to chill, music and books are my friends. Revisiting old favorite bands, old video games can do wonders. I also have my cats, they comfort me. Just try to enjoy what you love and what you have.

 

[voidcat]

Same here, ugly breakup. End of a decade long relationship.

The ridiculous thing is that the last straw was my dad's chronic illness which has been getting worse since 2019. All the stress got to me in the end.

Rest is good advice, sometimes it's best to slow down. I know with this caregiver burnout a new relationship would fail so i just try to chill, music and books are my friends. Revisiting old favorite bands, old video games can do wonders. I also have my cats, they comfort me. Just try to enjoy what you love and what you have.

Caregiver burnout is very real. I'm not in charge of someone all the time but I work with kids at a daycare. It's a very emotionally draining job

 

[Xenophon]

Same here, ugly breakup. End of a decade long relationship.

The ridiculous thing is that the last straw was my dad's chronic illness which has been getting worse since 2019. All the stress got to me in the end.

Rest is good advice, sometimes it's best to slow down. I know with this caregiver burnout a new relationship would fail so i just try to chill, music and books are my friends. Revisiting old favorite bands, old video games can do wonders. I also have my cats, they comfort me. Just try to enjoy what you love and what you have.

"No man with cats can be called truly impoverished."---Me, Just Now.