Where does one start with letting go of trauma?

[Vandheer]

I am not sure if I posted this on the correct section but this isn't neccesarily occult so posting it on Lounge.

I think I am at the point where I won't learn anything new unless I break out of my mental chains. They are practically the only thing holding me back nowadays that I sorted most of the material issues going on.

Obviously I should seek a professional, that goes without saying. But not gonna lie I fear sitting on that chair, as if my psyche was a tower of Jenga blocks and could fall out should one of them be pulled.

I used to give up the excuse that I don't have the money for therapy but now I have no excuse, nada. Dear WizardFolk, how do I beat this fear and while at that get some untangling going for myself?

Your advice is going to effect my path significantly, so sincere thanks in advance.

 

[Mannimarco]

Welcoming your suppressed feelings in meditation, expanding into and embracing them without judgment. More will arise as you work through the layers, and they will eventually just be finished. Exhausting, and takes time, but works wonders.

 

[Yazata]

Of course I don't know what it is that you are dealing with and how deep it goes, but I honestly believe that if you can avoid going to a therapist and work on (or with) yourself then at the end you will feel like You have beaten it, and You will have grown into an even better man

 

[Amur]

Surrendering to your emotions is a key factor. When you feel the traumatic emotions then you are conquering the trauma. Otherwise they just loop inside yourself and you suppress them. The traumatic energies do give alot of energy to yourself when going over them. So working with a trauma-therapist might be what you are seeking after. These are hard to go through alone.

 

[8Lou1]

since you fear the theRapist one could trigger on what i wrote or dare yourself to walk as a man and face your fear in life. make that appointment and go have a look at those scary people. and while youre at it do it while you believe in yourself aka make the experience so that you can view it back at home from the seat of the one who knows himself best and thats not your ego.

when you do this looking back on the event you already know you survived this scary event so you now you can look at it and for a chance not laugh at it, but take a serious look. youve been long enough on wf to have made friends here who will sense you and secretly help creating the replay.

when this occurs this is a totally occult thing and we are timetraveling and since you want to heal im prepared to throw a reiki flow into it, so we become medicine. youre not alone.

 

[IllusiveOwl]

I have personally overcome a significant amount of trauma, so forgive me for speaking with authority in my response, but if you seriously meditate on & contemplate what I say, you'll become reborn and truly indomitable.

The way you let go of your trauma is by expanding and refining your perspective.

What upsets you is the narrative of what happened, whether it's accurate or not, it isn't happening right now, so the source of your suffering is intangible, it's the story of what happened that bothers you. This is an important truth to understand deeply. In fact, the story you tell yourself about yourself also defines all your weaknesses and faults, like your fear of going to see a therapist... something to think about.

Now, who are you? Are you just the series of events that your life has been up until now? Are you the body/race/culture you've been born into? Of course not! You're a brilliant light of pure awareness! So how much does the story of your life truly define who you are in the present? As much as you believe it does.

Things in the past happened, you may have been hurt, people may have seriously wronged you and will never own up to it.. it's okay. The sick are the ones who cause harm, and they are not your responsibility. Feeling hatred is natural, but it is the same as hating a violent child, or a rabid animal...

Letting go is a vague thing, but it's simply just seeing things objectively, recognizing them as they are, and dedicating your energy to things in your life that you decide matter to you, because trauma will only take away from you and distracted you. Ultimately, nothing matters, all things are just the movements of a single nameless ocean, and so there is no reason to stress or suffer, and real peace can flood in.

I personally enjoy the concepts of Gestalt and Logotherapy, if you intend to get help, but meditation and Journaling is really all you need, except perhaps a talk-therapist to visit bi-weekly to make sure you're not going down a delusional path, I still see one once every few weeks to make sure I'm sane & grounded, knowing you have a professionals stamp of approval is a relief and assurance.

 

[Xenophon]

I am not sure if I posted this on the correct section but this isn't neccesarily occult so posting it on Lounge.

I think I am at the point where I won't learn anything new unless I break out of my mental chains. They are practically the only thing holding me back nowadays that I sorted most of the material issues going on.

Obviously I should seek a professional, that goes without saying. But not gonna lie I fear sitting on that chair, as if my psyche was a tower of Jenga blocks and could fall out should one of them be pulled.

I used to give up the excuse that I don't have the money for therapy but now I have no excuse, nada. Dear WizardFolk, how do I beat this fear and while at that get some untangling going for myself?

Your advice is going to effect my path significantly, so sincere thanks in advance.

Could you give a hint of what you're dealing with? I'm not into leeching off others' pain, but "trauma" is a pretty unspecific term in these times. (I have one acquaintance who sat by his kid dying of cancer. I also have a relative who insists a playground ass-kicking I took in 2nd grade "must have been traumatic.") So, I'd just like to know what magnitude of event you're dealing with. My first instinct is to go with Yazata above, but a little more info might be useful.