Hey Bri. Buddy. I did reading for you. Looks like some wise folks already tagged what the cards say. And who said common sense ain't common?
Queen of Swords
So we have a situation of supposed “frigidity” that is going to take a hell of lot more than a wish and a vague request on your part. Sex may be the 800 pound gorilla in the corner, but the relationship is the real issue. Marriage is more than hot sex on demand, it is a diplomatic and political situation demanding special care an attention – often a delicate balance of gestures. Husband and wife each have a duty to each other, marriage is a pact. Begging her ain’t gonna do it, but understanding her position will go along way. You gotta ask, what are you doing wrong in your life together? Understanding is the key here.
2 of Wands
Attacking the problem directly could lead to clash of wills, if it hasn’t before. “What’s mine is mine and what’s hers is hers” – so what is hers? Do you even care? You want to get laid but what does she want? Take some initiative and find ways to impress her that this union is worth it.
I recently read an article where, in a marriage, a woman’s number one complaint is that her mate has to find out from her what needs to be done around the house, assuming he does anything at all.
A wise fella once said that the male orgasm is “catastrophic” while the female orgasm is “undulating” – so how does this translate outside the realm of sex. Say she made a nice dinner, but whose doing the dishes???
Princess of Swords
While the Queen suggests a delicate balance, pushing forward could only blow up the situation and make it much worse. You want to get laid, but there are clearly some issues that stand in the way, starting with you. So onto strategy...
Ace of Swords
Knowledge is the first step. Do you even know what would turn your lady on? Removal of inhibitions often implies experimentation. Given the preponderance of the Queen and Princess above, this should first begin carefully or disaster might follow. However, to raise up a force, you need to also be able to put it down. So some self control is in order. In marriage, fantasies should ideally be mutual explored, but limits need to be set contrary to what may be dreamed of.
6 of Wands
The right approach brings forth the desired fruit. This very much points to the placing the love of the heart over the desires of the flesh. Marriage in many ways is a like a military situation, though the victory is meant to be one shared by allies. Take a cue from Sun Tzu: “The best way to win is by not fighting.” And: “Know your enemy as you know yourself, and you will already have won the battle.”
King of Cups
Too much of a good thing could quickly create a new imbalance that leads back to the original problem, or worse. Beware the situation where you are satisfied but she is not, and it could start in bed. I mean this in the sense of “your eyes may be bigger than your stomach.” An “uninhibited” mate can lead very much to unforeseen and unwanted consequences. This goes back to Roma’s original question to you, I think.
Some comedian once joked about talking his wife into getting it on with another girl. That accomplished, he found himself confronted with her desire for him to get it on with another guy. His reaction was “That’s gross!” Yucka yucka.