My relatives died in my house. How can I work with them?

[wizardofsam]

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting on the forum,I hope this is the right thread; if not, I apologize in advance and will gladly move it according to the mods' instructions.

I don't want to overshare, but essentially, I've been living in my apartment for almost ten years, M29.
Both my grandmother and, two years later, my father passed away in this house, and I witnessed both of their passings. It's been a while. I live with my mom now.
My family has always had a strong connection to the afterlife and everything "extra". there's also some level of neurodivergency going on.
My mother has always had precognitive dreams about people she might not have been in touch with for ages, and without fail, just a few hours later, these people either face massive problems or straight-up die
. On my end, I am not in such a dramatic situation yet, but quite often I get intrusive thoughts about someone I couldn't care less about, and right on cue, something extremely serious is happening to that person at that exact moment. I don't even know how to define this connection.
I inherit these intense perceptions, much like my late grandmother and her mother before her. We have Eastern European roots and my dad was half black.

I recently started studying Chaos Magick to properly direct my energy and achieve results that align with my will. However, I was wondering if anyone here has experience working with deceased relatives or spirits within their own household. I hope I made myself clear, and I'm totally available if you need any clarification...

I'm simply looking for sources—books, videos, studies, anything—to improve these abilities, direct them better, and work with the help of these deceased people, IF they're willing to show up, IF I am able to "call" them and not some other mumbo jumbo that has nothing to do with them!

I don't want to work with my dead father, he can fuck off even in the afterlife.
On the other hand, I had a beautiful relationship with my grandmother. I actually believe she is already guiding me in some way when it comes to these things, because I feel her constant presence even in my dreams. This is probably because my studio is actually in the room that used to be hers and is the one where she passed away.
thank you!

 

[Ohana]

Dreaming and practicing lucid dreaming I think could help. I think I've seen or talked to ghosts in my dreams.

Maybe practice sensing energy and that sort of thing. I think in my expierence at least talking with the dead is more intuitive and abstract that the living. If talking to the living is like interpreting a piece of art of a basic scenery like a waterfall then the dead is like looking at surrealist painting like the one with a clock melting. Except in dreams I think. I think there can be a bit more direct so have to practice lucid dreaming and such.

Maybe pulling some tarot cards or getting a pendulum could also help. I personally have seeing my dead grandma once but she seemed kind of sad about me. Its pretty chill to talk to them. Maybe try to understand your feelings about their deaths which might also open the door for communication. But dreams could help I bet.