One example from my experience - first I dont want to go around blowing my trumpet , but I am a very long term successful practitioner and something like this may not work unless you have a lot of ..... errrmmm , I dont know how to put this ....
' ecclectic / personal understanding of stuff '
Anyway ;
I turn up interstate for a job , the crew has been there a few weeks and working, things have amped up and got busier , so I get called in . I turn up on my first day and everyone is disturbed , my boss ( also a very good personal friend ) is upset .
''What's going on ? ''
Boss; '' I had a worker that I gave a job to , she was a girlfriend of a woman who works here in another department who asked me if I could give her some work . I tried her out but she was hopeless and I cant have people like that here . I persevered , was patient but no, I just had to let her go , she was a part time casual so, really I can sack any one under that agreement at any time for any reason , I felt I was pretty fair , Now her girlfriend is angry , argues with me about it, causes disputes , complains about me and my workers and our work being sub par . It's distracting , annoying upsetting and disturbing the happy family I have created in our department . ''
( Boss is Iranian , has a great big heart , generous , and has helped me many times , outside of work . I have seen him do it for others too )
Me to the crew ; '' What the hell are you lot doing , why dont you do something about it ( aside to boss ) didnt you put up that 'evil eye ' talisman like I suggested last time ? '' Yes, there it is hanging up ...'' but it isnt wiorking . . . can't you ... errrr ... do your thing ?''
'' Okay , give me 15 minutes . '' I scout the perimeter , sniff and suss out and do a type of adapted LBR at each quarter
( I think any such similar ritual you have familiarity with will do , it doesnt have to be an LBR , its just the medium I chose for that place and time ) .
Another worker complained to boss ; ''How come he turns up and gets to slack off straight off and walk around doing nothing .''
Boss; '' Mind you own business , go back to work . ''
I finish and boss comes up tpo me , '' Are you finished ? ''
''Yep. ''
''Is it going to work .''
'' I suppose we are going to find out .''
'' Ummm ... no one is going to get hurt or anything ?''
Me; '' Oh ? You dont want that ? ''
'' NO ! WTF ... I dont want anyone to get hurt , or worse .''
Me ; '' Ahhhh ... okay then ... hang on a minute .'' I go back and go around the quarters do a quick pentagram and add '' But dont kill or hurt anyone .'' at each quarter
Go back ... ''All finished .'' Boss; '' Good ! .. Now ... do some work , you slacker ! '' ( we joke around like that )
next day I turn up everyone is all abuzz , it has spread through the whole job ; gossip gossip ... Boss is excited ; ''It worked !''
me being like I am , had forgotten ; '' What worked ? ''
'' Your thing ! She is gone ! '' ( this woman was driver for production department ) '' Apparently , yesterday, after work, she was driving the head producer home and got done for speeding , still doing 110 kph off the motorway into a 60kph zone ! Instant dismissal .''
'' For that ?''
'' Well, she had the Executive Producer in the car , that is reckless and dangerous and besides , she will loose her licence .''
Me ; ''
... and no one was hurt or killed in a bad motor accident .''
... and the rest of the job went wonderfully, happy family again, no trouble and everyone was all getting on well .
Yep, it could have all been a 'blind co-incidence ' ... I could not care less one way or the other . A problem need fixing , and it got fixed .... somehow
There is however another side .... maybe your problem here is this person is a narcissist ... in other situations they are around me , nothing seems to change things there .... even medical science admits there is not much therapy cure or medicine for that . What is advised is to totally ignore them and not feed it . But that can be difficult if you work with them, they are you boss or neighbor .
