How to practice detachment?

[BrooklynShaman]

Dk if this the right place to ask this but how can I practice detachment? I am prone to spiraling at the slightest inconvenience or point and tend to take things personally. I also get attched to people super quickly.

I think learning detachment might allow me some air to breathe again with spiraling down and heaving

 

[Morell]

Good topic, pretty practical.
Martial arts are great for this skill, they teach you to keep your ground and to be at your center.

From occult skills:
deep breaths, centering, shielding, mindfulness (maybe), active imagination (imagine situation many times to practice not being taken by the emotions or attachment)

 

[nietai]

Practical topic,
also interesting.......maybe it can be useful counting numbers of windows in the buildings, or counting any other details, observing clothes of people around and trying not to have definitions in brain, just registering. Sound of voices, mindfulness in terms of registering, slowing down when not necessary and vice versa,
Focus on present moment and current action, for me it is also problem

 

[Sapientia_Lucio_369]

I implore you read the teachings of Falun Gong (法轮功) since detachment is literally their crux.

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HOWEVER: Like ALL spiritual/occult info online, take it with a grain of salt and filter out bullshit - because I certainly don't agree with all of their teachings. Like when they tell followers to "turn the other cheek", I certainly don't believe in that - aggressors need to have their asses kicked.

 

[frater_pan]

Dk if this the right place to ask this but how can I practice detachment? I am prone to spiraling at the slightest inconvenience or point and tend to take things personally. I also get attched to people super quickly.

I think learning detachment might allow me some air to breathe again with spiraling down and heaving

The first thing to do is concentration meditation, daily. Then practice just being aware all the time. This will take time. The point is that at some point you will realize that you are choosing to spiral. You may not be aware of it but you are making that choice. It's the same with taking things personally or attaching to people super quickly. The above is super general and you are likely to need personal instructions as you progress. You might even need therapy (lots of people do). Once you achieve some awareness you could begin to explore why you perform certain behaviors. I have only done this a little but I am almost always aware of my mental space and reactions. A friend of mine did the exploration of his behaviors since he was a youngish teenager, which was unheard of at the time. So there are different approaches (as he did not do concentration meditation although he could naturally concentrate sufficiently for his purposes).

 

[Robert Ramsay]

I just read an introduction to breathwork where it says that a long exhale tells your body that it can relax.

 

[smegvig]

Honestly this sounds less like a detachment issue and more like your brain going from 0 to 100 really fast, which a lot of people deal with. Detachment isn’t about not caring, it’s more about creating a small pause between what happens and how you react. Even something simple like noticing “I’m spiraling right now” can take the edge off a bit, and giving yourself a few seconds before reacting helps more than you’d think. It can also help to remind yourself there might be a more neutral explanation so things don’t feel so personal, and to slow down how quickly you get attached to people by keeping in mind you’re still getting to know them. The fact you’re aware of it already is a really good sign, this is something you can actually get better at over time.